DRAMA

AS MUCH AS I HATE TO ADMIT IT....I AM GUILTY OF CREATING A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF DRAMA IN MY LIFE THAT REALLY, I COULD DO WITHOUT.

ALL DRAMA DOES IS COMPLICATE THINGS. IT IS NEVER USEFUL. IT IS ALWAYS COUNTER PRODUCTIVE AND IT IS OFTEN DESTRUCTIVE.

I DON'T KNOW WHY WE AS HUMAN BEINGS NEED THIS ELEMENT IN OUR LIVES TO SURVIVE.....I HAVE KNOWN SOME FOLKS WHO LITERALLY THRIVED ON DRAMA...I HAVE LITERALLY CREATED PEOPLE WHO HAD TO HAVE DRAMA IN THEIR LIVES TO FEEL COMPLETE AND IF THINGS WERE GOING SMOOTHLY FOR THEM, THEY WOULD ACTUALLY CREATE SOME SORT OF CRISIS JUST TO FEEL OK.

I AM NOT TRAINED IN THE AREA OF PSYCHIATRY OR PSYCHOLOGY, BUT I HAVE KNOWLEDGE OF IT FROM THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE, IE AS A PATIENT, AND I KNOW THAT PEOPLE TEND TO SEEK OUT THEIR "NORMAL".

CONSEQUENTLY, WHATEVER ENVIRONMENT THEY WERE RAISED IN THEY TEND TO RECREATE FOR THEMSELVES AS ADULTS...THAT IS WHERE CODEPENDENCY COMES IN...THAT IS WHY THE CHILD OF AN ALCOHOLIC MARRIED SUBSTANCE ABUSERS OR CHILD ABUSERS ABUSE THEIR OWN CHILDREN...IT IS WHAT THEY KNOW...

SO...IF YOU WERE RAISED WITH A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF DRAMA IN YOUR LIFE, OR LEARNED THAT DRAMA GOT YOU ATTENTION, WHETHER IT BE GOOD OR BAD, THEN YOU CREATE THAT ELEMENT IN YOUR LIFE AS AN ADULT, NO MATTER WHAT THE OUTCOME, USUALLY NOT GOOD.

I ONCE WAS FRIENDS WITH THE DAUGHTER OF A WELL KNOWN PRODUCER DIRECTOR FOR WALT DISNEY WHO WAS RAISED IN SUCH CHAOS THAT IN HER MID 40'S WAS INCAPABLE OF LIVING IN REALITY. HAVING BEEN DISOWNED BY HER MOTHER AND SIBLING SHE MADE UP SUCH GRANDIOSE LIES TO ENMESH OTHERS IN HER SAD AND PITIFUL LIFE THAT YOU WERE ENTRAPPED SO QUICKLY YOU COULDN'T HELP BUT FEEL SO SORRY FOR HER THAT YOU WOULD DO ANYTHING TO HELP.

IT TOOK OVER NINE MONTHS OF ONE DRAMATIC EPISODE AFTER THE OTHER TO FINALLY ASCERTAIN THAT ALL OF HER TALES OF WOE WERE ACTUALLY COMING FROM INSIDE HER HEAD WHERE SHE LIVED, NO DOUBT, WITH PETER PAN AND THE EASTER BUNNY.

NEEDLESS TO SAY, SHE IS NO LONGER IN MY LIFE, AND THIS IS AN EXTREME CASE, BUT ON A MUCH LOWER LEVEL, DON'T WE ALL IN SOME WAY BRING UNNECESSARY DRAMA INTO OUR LIVES THAT WE COULD CERTAINLY LIVE MORE PEACEFULLY AND FUNCTION MORE SANELY WITHOUT?

THROUGH THIS WEB SITE I HAVE MADE A WONDERFUL NEW FRIEND (YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE :-) WHO IS A GREAT MIRROR TO ME....SHE MAKES ME LOOK AT MYSELF THROUGH HER EYES. SOMETIMES I LOVE WHAT I SEE AND I FEEL GREAT ABOUT MYSELF AND SOMETIMES I AM EMBARRASSED AND DON'T LIKE WHO I SEE LOOKING BACK.

BUT I USE THAT IMAGE TO CHANGE THE BAD AND REINFORCE THE GOOD. I WOULD PRAY AND WISH FOR YOU ALL TO HAVE SUCH A FRIEND.

RECENTLY, TODAY IN FACT, I RID MY LIFE OF A LIE I HAVE BEEN TELLING MYSELF FOR 4 YEARS NOW. THIS LIE IS TOO PERSONAL TO SHARE WITH EVERYONE BUT SUFFICE TO SAY, IT HAS HELD ME BACK FROM EXPERIENCING LIFE TO THE FULLEST, FROM BEING ALL I COULD HAVE BEEN AND FROM MAKING MYSELF HAPPY ON SO MANY WONDERFUL LEVELS.

SO I DID SOME REAL SOUL SEARCHING AND I CAME TO TERMS WITH THE BASIS OF THAT LIE AND I LOOKED IN THE MIRROR AND I PROMISED MYSELF AND MY FRIEND THAT I WOULD STOP THE DRAMA AND THE FALSEHOOD THAT I WAS TELLING THAT NEVER WOULD BE AND NEVER WAS AND I CLEANSED MY HEART AND MY HOME OF ALL OF IT'S TRACES AND I AM MOVING FORWARD IN YET ANOTHER ASPECT OF MY LIFE...AND TRUST ME, IT HURTS...A LOT.

I HATE CHANGE. ESPECIALLY CHANGE THAT HURTS...I DON'T CARE IF IT IS FOR THE BEST...I WOULD RATHER HAVE A SNAKE UP MY NOSE....BUT THIS IS THE ONLY WAY IT CAN BE. DRAMA EQUALS STRESS AND STRESS KILLS. IT CAUSES DIS-EASE/DISEASE, CANCER, AND ALL SORTS OF OTHER ILLNESSES.... IT MAKES US LOOK AT OURSELVES IN A POOR LIGHT...AND THAT IS THE SADDEST PART OF ALL ... BECAUSE TO BE HAPPY, WE NEED TO SEE OURSELVES IN THE BEST POSSIBLE LIGHT...IN THE HIGHEST ESTEEM.

ANYTHING OR ANYONE THAT TAKES AWAY YOUR SELF WORTH OR SELF ESTEEM OR MAKES YOU THINK LESS OF YOU NEEDS TO GO .....

THINGS AND/OR PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE ARE EITHER LIABILITIES OR ASSETS. TAKE STOCK OF YOUR ASSETS AND LIABILITIES AND LIQUIDATE THE LATTER.

LOVE YOURSELF FIRST AND THEN SURROUND YOURSELF WITH THOSE WHO ALSO TRULY LOVE YOU.

SOME PEOPLE WILL DISGUISE THEMSELVES TO MAKE YOU THINK THEY LOVE YOU FOR THEIR OWN GAIN, BUT IF IT BEGINS TO HURT TO HAVE THEM IN YOUR LIFE....IF LOVING THEM OR HAVING THEM FOR A FRIEND BEGINS TO CAUSE YOU PAIN....THEY DO NOT LOVE YOU. AND YOU WILL KNOW THE DIFFERENCE IN YOUR HEART, INNATELY.

DO NOT WASTE ANOTHER PRECIOUS MOMENT ON THOSE WHO ONLY SUCK THE LIFE OUT OF YOU AND GIVE NOTHING IN RETURN.

SKIP THE DRAMA, COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS, JOURNAL YOUR GRATITUDE AND LIQUIDATE YOUR LIABILITIES.

MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY, FIRST.

LOVE AND LIGHT.

r-

SO...AS I WAS SAYING...IT WASN'T EASY...I DON'T WANT TO MAKE IT SOUND LIKE I JUST TURNED MY LIFE AROUND ON A DIME AND STARTED LIVING MY DREAMS.



BUT IT WASN'T THAT HARD, EITHER.......



ONCE I REALLY GOT FED UP, ONCE I HAD HAD ENOUGH....AND TOOK THINGS INTO MY OWN HANDS AND TOOK ACCOUNTABILITY FOR MY LIFE AND THE CONDITION IT WAS IN THEN THINGS STARTED TO CHANGE. AND THE SECRET WAS THE CATALYST FOR THAT CHANGE.



NOW, IF YOU DON'T WANT TO SPEND 30.00 FOR THE MOVIE YOU CAN GO TO http://www.thesecret.tv/ AND WATCH IT ONE TIME FOR 4.95. JUST DO IT...IT WILL BE THE BEST MONEY YOU WILL EVER SPEND..KEEP AN OPEN MIND, THAT IS ALL I ASK.



ANYWAY, I DUG THE OLD FRENCH MEMORY BOARD OUT OF THE GARAGE AND DUSTED IT OFF. THIS IS A PICTURE FRAME WITH A PIECE OF HEAVY CARDBOARD COVERED IN PADDING AND SILK WITH RIBBONS CRISS-CROSSED IN A DIAMOND PATTERN AND HELD ON WHERE THEY INTERSECT BY BUTTONS....I'M SURE YOU'VE SEEN THEM ...WELL I JUST HAPPENED TO HAVE PICKED ONE UP AT A FLEA MARKET.



THEY ARE USUALLY USED FOR PICTURES. YOU SIMPLY STICK THE PICS UNDER THE RIBBON MAKING SORT OF A COLLAGE INTERLACED BETWEEN THE INTERSECTING RIBBONS..



THIS WOULD BE MY "VISION BOARD"....AND I BEGAN PUTTING WHAT I WANTED MY LIFE TO BE LIKE UP ON THAT BOARD....I CHOSE A PICTURE OUT OF A MAGAZINE OF SOME LOFTS THAT I IMAGINED MYSELF LIVING IN, I TOOK MY CREDIT REPORT AND INKED OUT THE REAL CREDIT SCORE AND WROTE IN WHAT I ENVISIONED IT TO BE....I GOT A 401K STATEMENT AND DID THE SAME WITH THE BALANCE...I TOOK ALL MY CREDIT CARDS WITH BALANCES I WANTED TO PAY OFF AND STUCK THEM UP THERE, TOO. AND I TIED AND OLD ENGAGEMENT RING BY A LOOSE RIBBON....



TO MY AMAZEMENT, ONE BY ONE THEY ALL STARTED TO COME TRUE..AND AS THEY DID, I TOOK THEM DOWN AND PUT THEM IN A SCRAPBOOK WITH THE DATE THAT THEY DID...



I ALSO JOINED SOMETHING THAT I HIGHLY RECOMMEND CALLED "INTENDERS OF THE HIGHEST GOOD" IT IS SOMETHING THAT YOU CAN JOIN FOR FREE AND THEY WILL NOT ONLY SEND YOU INSPIRATIONAL MESSAGES DAILY, BUT HOOK YOU UP WITH AN ONLINE JOURNAL WHERE YOU CAN JOURNAL YOUR INTENTIONS DAILY WHICH I ALSO DID. HERE IS THEIR LINK:

http://www.intenders.org/



LITERALLY, WITHIN 6 MONTHS I WAS ON MY WAY TO A NEW LIFE. "THE SECRET" WILL LEAD YOU INTO A NETWORK OF SO MANY WONDERFUL PEOPLE AND PLACES..BOTH ONLINE AND IN YOUR LIFE...YOU WILL NOT BELIEVE THE CHANCES TO GROW AND BECOME INVOLVED IN OTHER WONDERFUL THINGS YOU WILL EXPERIENCE AS A RESULT.



IN 4 MONTHS I WENT FROM MAKING 750.00 EVERY 2 WEEKS AS A CUSTOMER SERVICE REP TO MORE THAN DOUBLING THAT AND BACK INTO MY OLD PROFESSION AS A DEALER, SOMETHING I NEVER IMAGINED POSSIBLE AGAIN FOR ME DUE TO INJURIES SUSTAINED IN AN AUTOMOBILE ACCIDENT.



IS IS "MAGIC"? NO....BUT IN SHORT, THINGS JUST STARTED HAPPENING FOR ME, OR RATHER, I LEARNED HOW TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN FOR MYSELF.



I LEARNED HOW TO STOP ATTRACTING WHAT I DID NOT WANT AND BEGIN ATTRACTING WHAT I DID WANT INTO MY LIFE....AND THE OUTCOME HAS BEEN INCREDIBLE...REMEMBER, I SAID THAT "THE SECRET" WAS ONLY THE CATALYST, YOU GET OUT OF IT WHAT YOU WANT TO..IT IS UP TO YOU TO IMPLEMENT IT.



YOU CANNOT JUST SIT ON THE COUCH AND WAIT FOR THINGS TO CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE...YOU MUST GET OUT THERE AND MAKE IT HAPPEN....LIKE THE TITLE OF MY BLOG.."THE BAD NEWS IS......ONLY YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE"....



BUT IF YOU TURN THAT AROUND...THE GOOD NEWS IS...GUESS WHAT? ONLY YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE!!"



LOOK AROUND YOU....WHATEVER YOU ARE EXPERIENCING OR HAVE IN YOUR LIFE YOU HAVE BROUGHT OR ATTRACTED TO YOU IN SOME WAY...THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE UGLY.



LIFE IS SHORT AND FLEETING....IT IS UP TO YOU TO DECIDE HOW YOU WANT TO LIFE YOURS. HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE....I CANNOT SAY THAT ENOUGH.



I KNOW THAT IS GOING TO SOUND REALLY FOREIGN TO A LOT OF YOU, BUT IF YOU WANT TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE, START WITH "THE SECRET" AND BOOKS BY DR WAYNE DYER....BECAUSE IF I CAN DO IT AS LOST AND CONFUSED AND LONELY AS I WAS, SO CAN YOU...AND YOUR HIGHER POWER...YOUR CREATOR...SOURCE...I CHOSE TO CALL HIM GOD..



TOGETHER YOU REALLY CAN MOVE MOUNTAINS...BE ONE WITH HIM...LEARN HOW TO DO THAT...QUIT LOOKING AT THE TWO OF YOU AS SEPARATE...BECAUSE HE IS WITH YOU ALL THE TIME....START SEEKING...BEGIN YOUR PERSONAL JOURNEY.....



GET OFF THE COUCH. IT STARTS TODAY.



UNTIL NEXT TIME.



R-

The Bad News Is......................

This is a picture of me and the person I made responsible for my happiness for more years than I care to admit.

We are no longer together, however we remain as close as 500 miles apart will allow us to be.

He says I drive him nuts but he can't leave me alone. I know he drives me nuts and i choose not to exclude him from my life.

Over the years we have both been guilty of making each other responsible for one anothers happiness. As a result, we have lost the ability to live together or have one each other in our lives on a daily basis.

Along the way we have been incredibly unfair to the other person, hurt each other tremendously, caused one another a great deal of pain and heartache and pretty much just made our own lives miserable in the process.

All because we depended on the other person to make us happy.

Well, I used to say that all i really knew in my 53 years on this planet was that i didn't know anything....this is not true.

I know 2 things....the first is that you cannot change anyone but yourself...and if you look at that gorgeous, sexy man or woman you just met and he or she seems just perfect except for that one little thing that just drives you NUTS....he swears too much or she talks horribly to his mother, he treats his animals poorly or she has really bad credit because he is irresponsible with his/her money.....if the thought ever crosses your mind, "but I can change them" don't kid yourself, because you can't.....and you are doing nothing but trying to put out fire with gasoline, trying.

The 2nd thing i have learned and know to be true is this....no one and nothing can make you happy....happiness is a choice. And you...YOU get to chose or reject it for yourself.

I never truly got that until the past year....and it was truly trial by fire.

It started by my becoming so dissatisfied and unhappy by my needs not being met by someone else that I left him and moved 500 miles away to be with my daughters and grandchildren.

I was soooooo craving to be near people who loved me. Still, when surrounded by those who loved me most i felt alone and desperately unhappy.

I turned to the church, where i had been raised. I found solice there for a short time. But as always it was fleeting. I always knew i loved God and Jesus....but it was what i call "fear based" religion that once again stopped me from continuing to go. I couldn't honestly say to anyone, ever with any conviction that if they did not believe as i did that they were going to "hell."

I couldn't even say that i believed in hell or a god who would condem you to such a place. The god i was taught to love and believed in was pure love, pure energy, not something that would or could ever create a void where he would send someone He was responsible for creating to live eternally separated from him.....it just never made sense to me....Then there was the concept of Karma...which always made so much sense to me...and from what I have read, surfaces in some way in every major religion on the planet in some form.

Then quite by chance I was introduced by a beautiful old soul in a beautiful young man's body (when the student is ready the teacher will appear), who turned me on to a movie called the Secret, and my life was changed forever.

When i combined that with the 5 yrs of psycho-therapy I had under my belt the pieces of the puzzle just started flying into place...quantum physics and psychiatry..what a FANTASTIC combination....and all of a sudden an epiphany...i finally understood what Tom had said and what i had been told by so many wise people for so many years and never really "got".....

THE BAD NEWS IS .... NO BODY CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY BUT YOU .... BUT THE GOOD NEWS IS.....NO BODY CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY BUT YOU.....this applies to "things" as well...because if you aren't happy inside yourself, laying in bed, naked and alone in the dark...no one and nothing is going to do that for you....HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE THAT ONLY YOU CAN MAKE.

Let me say that again.....

YOUR HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE THAT ONLY YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR MAKING.

Now...when you think of that....it can be really scary at first....but really freeing ultimately.......

I'm not a master at it...not yet...but in less than a year I have almost tripled my income, learned how to "intend" and manifest things into my life, realized my own divinity and that of those around me, become one with my creator, realized the most abundance i have ever known, and become happier than i have ever been in my life.

NOW...i still get my feelings hurt....and i still am not above telling someone that THEY hurt them....but deep down inside myself i understand the concept that NO ONE can hurt my feelings unless i allow it....(that's a tough one).....and really we create the situations and the life we want for ourselves....so if you are lacking something in your life, somehow, someway, you are keeping it from coming to you.....

We are all energy...housed in these bodies for our stay on this planet...we are all the same energy as the divine creator that created us...like drops of water separated from the ocean....the sooner you realize that you are apart of the same energy...the easier your life will become..

My advice...start by watching The Secret...read Dr Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra...James Assaraf, Michael Neill..

And above all....make yourself happy. Don't make yourself happy FIRST...i hear that a lot and it's RUBBISH....because you can't make anyone else happy BUT you....Make yourself happy and teach those you care about and love how to do the same...that is the greatest gift you can give someone...

Imagine a world in which everyone's initial goal in live was to unselfishly find what gave them inner happiness.....i have a feeling it would all work out from there...